OK .. this is long, but i need some advice with some Stepmom/Realmom weddin plannin problems?

Ok well that was long but not as bad as I thought it was going to be ;) My parents aren't divorced but I'm kinda going through the same thing. My fiances mom agrees with things I want and my mom flat out told me it's dumb. My mom is 5 years older than his mom I know it's not a big age gap but his mom seems so much...do I dare use the word "cooler". She's easy to get along with and talk bout anything with my mom is very traditional when I mentioned we wanted to do a candy buffet she gave me a 10 minute Speech bout how dumb it is. His mom loves the idea. It's hard when someone you care about and want to be involved makes things difficult and doesn't like anything you bring up. BUT it is YOUR wedding. It's great that his mom and your real mom agree with things but honestly in the end it's up to you and your fiance, what you guys want. Talk to your step mom....(good luck) it's worth a shot if you just sit her down tell her you love her and appreciate her being there for you and want her to be involved for those reasons but you want to be able to plan the wedding you want. You want her advice but that doesn't mean you'll always take it. Also you could pick something simple for her to be in charge of. GOOD LUCK! I don't know how much I've helped but I tried lol! I hope you have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful marriage with your fiance!